I have become increasingly aware of how the ways we view and talk to ourselves shape our choices and how we relate to the world. Unfortunately, low self-esteem proves to be a huge obstacle for too many people  – oftentimes it stops us from enjoying relationships, doing the things we want to do, and from working toward our life goals and dreams.

Low self-esteem can range in severity and in the way it manifests itself in us, so first, let’s explore what we mean by good self-esteem.  In its truest sense, healthy self-esteem embodies two aspects: the experience of being capable of meeting life’s challenges (competence) and feeling worthy of happiness

Tips to build a stronger sense of competence:

• Make an accurate self-appraisal (be realistic – not too harsh or too easy.  Ask for feedback from a trusted friend or counselor for your self-assessment).
• Work on overcoming adversities and bouncing back from failures.
• Break difficult tasks into small steps. Your competence will grow as you master each step toward the larger goal.
• Assume responsibility for your actions by looking realistically at what you can do to be more successful in the situation you’re facing. When we blame others or outside events for life’s difficulties we lock ourselves into being victims.
• Maintain your integrity by living in accordance with your own values.  This will help engender your sense of self-worth.

The way we see ourselves affects the way others perceive us. Having a healthy and positive relationship with yourself will show people that you feel worthy of love and success. Don’t be afraid to praise and care for yourself – when you put forth the effort to overcome low self-esteem, you’ll realize just how much you can accomplish!

If you have any questions, need help, or just want more information please call me or my boss, Marianne Gabelman at (415) 491-5705.

Take good care of yourself! All the best.

Alissa Steiner