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HELPFUL
TIPS:
TALK AND LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD
Don't wait until
your child has a problem. Begin early to talk about issues related
to school, sexual behavior, and alcohol and other drugs. Keep
the lines of communication open.
Be a good listener.
Make sure your child feels comfortable bringing problems or questions
to you. Don't allow anger or discomfort about what you are hearing
to disrupt the discussion. If necessary, take a break to calm
down before continuing. Also take note of what your child is not
saying. If he or she is not telling you about problems, take the
initiative to ask questions.
Be available to discuss even sensitive subjects. Young people
need to know they can rely on their parents for accurate information.
Stay informed.
Give lots of praise. "Catch your child being good." Emphasize
the things your child is doing right instead of focusing on what
is wrong. This helps them develop self-confidence and trust their
own judgment.
Give clear messages about your beliefs. For example, regarding
alcohol and drugs, "In our family we don't allow the use of illegal
drugs, and children are not allowed to drink."
Model good behavior. Children learn by example as well as by teaching.
Make sure that your own actions reflect the standards of honesty,
integrity, and fair play that you expect of your child.
If you find yourself at an impasse with your child, consider seeking
professional help to facilitate better communication.
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